英語演講：LilyCollins講述成長故事

I remember my first day of high school and it was terrifying because the grade started in 7th, 8th and 9th in that school and I went into 9th grade. So I was like the newbie at the very height of everyone's friendship. And I remember walking into the locker area and everyone had their group of friends. And I was, I just didn't know what to do.

我記得我上高中的第一天，那真是太可怕了，因?yàn)槟撬鶎W(xué)校的年級(jí)是從七年級(jí)、八年級(jí)和九年級(jí)開始的，我上的是九年級(jí)。所以我就像一個(gè)處在友誼巔峰的新手。我記得我走進(jìn)更衣室每個(gè)人都有一群朋友而我只有一個(gè)人，我真是不知道該怎么辦。

I went to my locker and I started kind of looking like I was doing something. And I looked over and this girl just smiled and she just came over and she was like, do you want to sit with me during assembly? I don't recognize you. And I was like, I like looked around like me, are you sure? And all it took was that one girl. And we didn't stay like best friends throughout high school, but even up until graduation.

我走到我的儲(chǔ)物柜前，我假裝像是在搗鼓什么。我看到那個(gè)女孩微笑著走過來，她說，你想在集會(huì)時(shí)和我坐在一起嗎?我看你像新來的，我環(huán)顧四周。你確定嗎?而當(dāng)時(shí)我所需要的就是那個(gè)女孩所作的這些。高中時(shí)我們并沒有保持最好的朋友關(guān)系，直到畢業(yè)。

I remember going back to her at graduation 4 years later and saying thank you. I don't think you know how much that meant me. But all I needed or didn't even know I needed at the time was for one person to just invite me to go sit with them, to look like I was a part of something, whether she knew what impact she had on me or not.

我記得4年后畢業(yè)時(shí)，我跑過去對(duì)她說了聲謝謝。我想你不知道那對(duì)我有多重要。但我當(dāng)時(shí)是需要的，或者說甚至我自己都沒有意識(shí)到自己所需要的，只是有一個(gè)人邀請(qǐng)我去和他們坐在一起，讓我看起來像是他們的一份子，不管她是否知道她對(duì)我有什么影響。

After that, it was like I started meeting people and it just organically happened. But I think it really is about reaching out and you don't have to be best friends with the person. It's just about making someone feel included. And more than that feeling of feeling less than.

從那以后，我開始和別人見面，一切都自然而然地發(fā)生了。但我認(rèn)為關(guān)鍵的是要伸出援手，你不一定要和那個(gè)人成為最好的朋友。只是為了讓別人覺得自己被接納，讓這種感覺蓋過之前被無視的感覺。

I think if you have a sense about something and you have this kind of intuition, that something's going on, all it takes is asking someone if they're okay.

我認(rèn)為如果你預(yù)感一些事情，或者你的直覺告訴你有事情要發(fā)生，你所需要做的就是問別人他們是否還好。

And if you still feel weird about it, there are other people or other ways to go about trying to just express that feeling. All you can do is express your feelings and thoughts in a contained, helpful way and try your hardest to help. It's the talking through things and the asking if you're okay.

如果你仍然覺得很奇怪，還有其他人或其他方式可以試著表達(dá)這種感覺。你所能做的就是用一種冷靜的、有用的方式表達(dá)你的感受和想法，并盡你最大的努力去幫助別人。討論當(dāng)下的事情，詢問別人是否還好。

And I think even if you don't know the person like at school and you see someone going through something, but you genuinely can tell something's wrong, that person may really just want someone to ask for help. And I think maybe a lot of the time, and myself included, you think it's not my place, it's not my job. It may not be, but someone else might not be taking it either. And you saying something and nobody is saying something are 2 very different situations. And I think that person would much rather have human communication than not have anything at all.

我認(rèn)為，即使你不認(rèn)識(shí)學(xué)校里的那個(gè)人，你看到有人在經(jīng)歷一些事情，但你真的能感覺到有些不對(duì)勁，那個(gè)人可能只是想找人幫忙。我想可能很多時(shí)候，包括我自己，會(huì)覺得事不關(guān)己高高掛起。你不去做，別人可能也不會(huì)去做。你過去關(guān)心兩句和不去關(guān)心是兩種完全不同的情況。我認(rèn)為那個(gè)人寧愿有人際交流也不愿什么都沒有。

Gossip was a big thing at my high school. I definitely think just not accepting something at face value is one way to stop gossiping and rumors, because we get so used to this whole, I don't wanna talk badly about him, but did you hear that? Like, oh, my god, you wanna be the person that breaks news and you want to be. And that's kind of like where tabloids, magazines want to be the first to have a story.

在我的高中，八卦是件大事。我覺得看待事情不能只看表面是阻止流言蜚語和謠言的一種方法，因?yàn)槲覀円呀?jīng)習(xí)慣了這種情況，我不想說他的壞話，但你聽到了嗎?就像，哦，天哪，你想成為爆料的人，你想成為。這有點(diǎn)像小報(bào)，雜志想要第一個(gè)報(bào)道。

And you do get easily sucked into it, myself included. You're all of a sudden talking about something and all of a sudden you don't even realize of what you've just said may not be true and it may be hurtful to someone that hears it. And I think even amongst your girlfriends or your friends, guy friends, whatever, just to stand up and say she's not, he's not here, like let's, they can't speak for themselves. I think we should probably not talk about that.

你確實(shí)很容易被卷入其中，包括我自己。你突然在談?wù)撘恍┦虑?，突然你甚至沒有意識(shí)到你剛剛說的話可能不是真的，這可能會(huì)傷害到聽到它的人。我認(rèn)為即使是你的女朋友或朋友，男性朋友，無論如何，你應(yīng)該站出來說，他不在，他不能為自己解釋，我們不應(yīng)該在背后說這些。

And it may cause your friends to go, what, like why are, you're the one that started that last week? And you, it may shock them at first, but I think the shock sometimes can be a good thing because it's like a, whoa, I can't believe that person just stopped us doing what we normally did or what normally wouldn't be a big deal. And yes, it may take a lot of extra guts to just stop. And yes, you may be really curious about what that person's gonna say, but you're only feeding into it more. So I think questioning is a really good way to, to stop the stir of something.

我覺得我們還是別談這個(gè)了。這可能會(huì)讓你的朋友們說，怎么了，為什么是你上周開始這么做的?一開始他們可能會(huì)感到震驚，但我認(rèn)為這種震驚有時(shí)是件好事，因?yàn)檫@就像，哇，我不敢相信那個(gè)人阻止了我們做我們通常會(huì)做的事情，或者通常不會(huì)有什么大不了的事情。停下來可能需要很多額外的勇氣。你可能真的很好奇那個(gè)人會(huì)說什么，但你只會(huì)更加好奇。所以我認(rèn)為提問是一種很好的方式，可以阻止一些事情的發(fā)展。

I have always grown up having gay uncles. Most of my guy friends came out to me first. And I really hate geislers. And I will just never understand the use of those words. And on I remember specifically on date, someone using that and as like a joke. And I was like, do you realize how uncool that is? And I even shocked myself. It wasn't even a thing that I thought, should I say it? It just came out because of passion. And I just really was against it.

我從小就有同性戀叔叔。我的大多數(shù)男性朋友都是先向我表白的。而且我真的很討厭同性戀。我永遠(yuǎn)都不會(huì)明白為什么要用這些詞。我記得有一次約會(huì)，有人用這個(gè)詞，就像開玩笑一樣。我說，你知道這有多無禮嗎?說完我自己都嚇了一跳。這根本不是我想要的，我應(yīng)該說出來嗎?它只是脫口而出。但我真的很反對(duì)歧視同性戀。

I think there's something so empowering about speaking out. And also sometimes they say that the moments where you're the most nervous or scared are the most kind of invigorating moments in which you grow from and the most powerful and what you gain an hour later looking back on that. And you're like, I told him I said something.

我覺得總有些東西會(huì)讓你鼓起勇氣發(fā)聲。有時(shí)人們也會(huì)說，你最緊張或害怕的時(shí)刻是最讓你精神振奮的時(shí)刻，你從中成長，汲取力量，一個(gè)小時(shí)后回想起來，你會(huì)收獲什么。我說，是的，我大膽的說出口了。。

Because those are the moments that you've obviously grown from, but also you never know that could have made such an impact on that person because no one's actually ever called them out. And to be the first person to call someone out, that's a really strong thing.

因?yàn)檫@些都是你成長的時(shí)刻，但你也不知道會(huì)對(duì)那個(gè)人產(chǎn)生如此大的影響，因?yàn)闆]有人真正地說出來。你成為第一個(gè)對(duì)他們直言的人，這很重要。

The job that I'm in and the world that we live in nowadays with all the social media and instant gratification and photos being posted right away and people commenting. And I've tried my hardest not to read things because for every positive thing you read, you'll find 2 negatives.

我現(xiàn)在的工作和我們現(xiàn)在生活的世界，充斥著社交媒體和即時(shí)滿足感，人們時(shí)時(shí)發(fā)布照片，隨即人們發(fā)布評(píng)論。我已經(jīng)盡我最大的努力不去看這些東西了，因?yàn)槊孔x一件積極的事情，你就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)兩件消極的事情。

I've always wanted to kind of create maybe like an online space where very similar to this, it's like where teens can just talk to other teens, where you're sharing how you're feeling about things and someone else pipes in and goes, oh my gosh, me too. Like what do you do to help with that? Or wow, I didn't know that a guy could feel that way, cause I'm a girl and I thought it was only a girl's issue.

我一直想創(chuàng)建一個(gè)類似的在線空間，在那里青少年可以和其他青少年交談，在那里你可以分享你對(duì)事情的感受，其他人也會(huì)說，哦，我的天哪，我也是。你會(huì)怎么做呢?哇，我不知道男生會(huì)有這種感覺，因?yàn)槲沂桥?，我以為這只是女生的問題。

I think by creating online environments and spaces where people can just communicate. And sometimes certain issues aren't easy to talk about. They're really awkward. I know that I used to go to lunch with my mom and her friends and they would all ask me questions about my generation, so that they could take that information, go back home to their kids and feel like they knew things.

我認(rèn)為通過創(chuàng)造人們可以交流的在線環(huán)境和空間。有時(shí)，某些問題不容易談?wù)摗Ｋ麄冋娴暮軐擂?。我知道我以前和我媽媽還有她的朋友一起去吃午飯，她們都會(huì)問我一些關(guān)于我們這一代人的問題，這樣她們就可以把這些信息帶回家，告訴她們的孩子，覺得自己知道很多事情。

And I never had a problem of being that kind of go between person because I really wanted to kind of communicate from my generation to my moms and bridge that gap. So if there's a way to do it online where you don't feel awkward because you're not looking the person face to face and asking these questions or spilling kind of your inner thoughts, but that you could get as genuine a reaction.

我從來沒有遇到過作為一個(gè)中間人的問題，因?yàn)槲艺娴暮芟牒臀疫@一代的媽媽溝通，彌合差距。所以，如果有一種在線的方式，你不會(huì)感到尷尬，因?yàn)槟悴皇敲鎸?duì)面地問這些問題，或者泄露你內(nèi)心的想法，但你可以得到真實(shí)的反應(yīng)。

I think that would be so positive because no longer would you take that lack of communication and, and kind of filter it into bullying someone that you don't know or that you do know and feel that you could have a power over them.

我認(rèn)為這是非常積極的，因?yàn)槟悴粫?huì)再把這種缺乏溝通的情況，過濾成欺負(fù)那些你不認(rèn)識(shí)或認(rèn)識(shí)的人，并覺得你可以對(duì)他們有影響力。

You could actually voice your own opinions, deal with the insecurities and not ever have to even think about putting them on someone else. I think if something can be made negative, it sure as that can be made positive. I wouldn't put it past any of us to think of an idea.

實(shí)際上，你可以表達(dá)自己的觀點(diǎn)，處理不安全感，甚至不必考慮把它們放在別人身上。我認(rèn)為，如果一件事可以變成消極的，那它肯定也可以變成積極的。我想我們?nèi)魏稳硕寄芟氤鲆粋€(gè)好主意。