1234 這個(gè)世界比手機(jī)里的世界要美麗太多了 ｜ 法國(guó)尼斯一個(gè)不舒服的沙發(fā)住宿體驗(yàn)

The world is more beautiful than the world wide web. 現(xiàn)實(shí)世界比互聯(lián)網(wǎng)要美妙多了。

我的愿望很簡(jiǎn)單，就是用我的腳步去丈量這個(gè)世界, 在這次環(huán)歐旅行中，我試著要省錢(qián)和為了體驗(yàn)更多的文化嘗試了沙發(fā)客的體驗(yàn)！這兩個(gè)月的火車(chē)行我總共經(jīng)歷了19個(gè)不同地方當(dāng)沙發(fā)客的體驗(yàn)，在我的couchsurfing檔案里，我都會(huì)特別強(qiáng)調(diào)，我不是用沙發(fā)沖浪來(lái)約會(huì)的，（I’m not using couchsurfing to date!)，我將我兩個(gè)月的行程公開(kāi)后，收到了將近上百封的邀約！在每個(gè)沙發(fā)主人的檔案上，你可以看得到他們過(guò)去接待的經(jīng)驗(yàn)還有沙發(fā)客留下的評(píng)價(jià)（reference）。我盡量挑選親切的留言、有良好評(píng)價(jià)，還有可以提供獨(dú)立房間的沙發(fā)主。我得說(shuō)這次歐洲沙發(fā)的冒險(xiǎn)體驗(yàn)大多都是非常美好的，然而有少數(shù)幾個(gè)讓我感覺(jué)不是太舒服的，今天我就來(lái)分享一個(gè)吧！我也在節(jié)目最后提出了幾個(gè)問(wèn)題希望你們也可以思考一下或告訴我你是怎么想的。

My couchsurfing host in Nice, France, who had lived there about 9 years with his family. His apartment was centrally located and it was perfect for my next journeys to Monaco and Geneva. I felt really lucky! During the time staying with him, there were also two couchsurfers from Kazakhstan sharing the apartment. It turned out we were going to the same travel conference those days too. I didn’t know those girls very well, but they seemed really friendly. The host was also lovely and helpful. However, those days the host often complained to me in private that he felt used when the girls had the breakfast he offered and never asked to wash the dishes or cook anything back. He never said anything right in front of them, though. I felt a bit uncomfortable about the situation and offered to make dumplings and buy lunch to compensate even though I was out of their interactions. I was trying to be a good guest however became somewhat uneasy living in his place as the week went on. It seemed that my efforts were interpreted the wrong way as some kind of romantic spark and some comments became uncomfortably flirtatious. In the end, I felt relieved when I finally left his place. 

我在法國(guó)尼斯的沙發(fā)主和他家人住在法國(guó)九年了。他的公寓就在市中心，所以對(duì)我接下來(lái)的要去摩納哥還有日內(nèi)瓦（瑞士）的火車(chē)旅行會(huì)非常的方便。我感到很幸運(yùn)！在他家住宿的那段時(shí)間，還有兩位來(lái)自哈薩克斯坦的女孩，因?yàn)槲覀兺瑯邮菂⒓泳銟?lè)部在歐洲的旅行大會(huì)，共享了他的公寓。我不是很認(rèn)識(shí)這兩個(gè)女生，但是她們?nèi)丝雌饋?lái)非常友善。沙發(fā)主人也是非常的好和熱心的主人。然而，他則在那幾天一直在私底下和我抱怨這兩個(gè)女生，吃他的喝他的，也沒(méi)有做飯來(lái)回饋他。我則為了補(bǔ)償他為他做了餃子還有買(mǎi)午餐。即使我和他的互動(dòng)不是像他們和沙發(fā)主那樣子，住在他家我還是感覺(jué)有點(diǎn)不自在，因?yàn)槲以囍?dāng)一個(gè)好客人，然而他以為我們之間有浪漫的火花，在我待的那周言語(yǔ)中有點(diǎn)挑逗。終于離開(kāi)他的地方時(shí)，我真的覺(jué)得解脫了。

It got me thinking about a couple of questions, which I still don’t have conclusive answers to. I would be interested to hear other people’s views. 

這件事讓我想了好多問(wèn)題，到現(xiàn)在我都沒(méi)有確切的答案，我很好奇，也想聽(tīng)聽(tīng)其他人的意見(jiàn)。

What is appropriate behavior for the host and the guest? Is it the same across cultures and  how could we objectively understand the meaning behind words and actions? If a guest feels uncomfortable with something they see or with something they experience in a host’s place, is it appropriate to challenge this and if so, how? When we write a reference about an experience do we have a responsibility to write it only from our perspective or should we think about how other people  might feel in that situation.

到底什么是對(duì)于沙發(fā)主人和客人適當(dāng)?shù)男袨槟?？在不同的文化是一樣?zhǔn)則的嗎？我們要怎么客觀的去理解話語(yǔ)和行為背后的意思呢？如果一個(gè)客人對(duì)于看到的某件事或他們?cè)谥魅思依矬w驗(yàn)到感到不舒服的話，去拿出這件事來(lái)挑戰(zhàn)對(duì)方是不是適當(dāng)?shù)氖虑槟?？那?yīng)該怎么做了？還有我們需不需為對(duì)方寫(xiě)這件事的評(píng)價(jià)負(fù)責(zé)任？在寫(xiě)的時(shí)候我們是完全用我們的觀點(diǎn)來(lái)寫(xiě)，還是試想別人可能會(huì)怎樣感受到那個(gè)情況來(lái)寫(xiě)呢？